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At one time or another, most men have asked, how can you make a girl fall in love with you: here are the 7 essential tools you’ll need.
Whether you’ve got Channing Tatum-like-dating-skills or when it comes to women, your ability is a little more Smurf-like, you’ve still probably asked yourself at some point, how you can make that girl fall in love with you.
No matter which category you fall into, like all good projects you’ll need right tools and preparation. Here are the 7 essential tools you need to make her fall in love with you.
If you’ve got someone in mind, firstly assess if she’s really the right match for you. There’s not much point trying to get her to fall in love with you in the first place if you’re both not that well suited. You may be attracted to her but let’s face it, we’ve all been attracted to the wrong person before.
Define exactly who it is you want, and then based on that ask yourself if the values match and things are worth pursuing.
If you don’t already have it, acquire a healthy level of confidence. Not verbose, over-the-top confidence, but a quiet and calming confidence.
Ashley Fern, in 6 Reasons Why Confidence Is The Most Attractive Quality A Person Can Possess, reports that people find confident people attractive and are drawn to them.
Women find confident men reassuring and safe. It gives the impression that they will be protected, you’re capable, and when things all go down like The Walking Dead they will be safe with you.
This need for security is likely to date back through evolution. The confident caveman projected the image that he would be able to bring home the beast, not get eaten himself, and would be able to protect the family from danger.
Be confident that the partnership will continue. Second guessing how she feels, what she said and how things are progressing will ooze doubt into the relationship.
Social psychologist Amy Cuddy offers that “power posing” (having a posture of confidence) can give us inner confidence as well as potentially increase our chances of success with others.
Be at your optimum physically. There’s a substantial body of research evidencing that our physical health impacts on our psychological/emotional states. If you’re at your desired weight, eat well, get enough sleep and feel healthy, you’re likely to feel better in general about yourself. If there are gaps in how you feel physically, think about making changes.
Also dress as well as you can afford to and appropriately matched to the person you’re trying to get to fall in love with you.
Ensure you have emotional good health. Nobody wants to fall in love with the walking wounded.
If you’ve had a string of broken relationships, divorce or rejections, make sure these still don’t have any power over you. The trauma from past hurts that are unresolved can potentially come across to others as being broken, bitter or just too hard work.
Consider the type of person you want to fall in love with you. If it’s someone that you would describe as quite feminine, then you’ll need to have more of a masculine air. Feminine women, as a rule, usually prefer men to be men.
Masculine means you are happy to ask her out, book the restaurant and pick her up. You walk with her in a way that protects her, you make the plans and ask her if she’d like to join you.
Dr Pat Allen in her book Getting To I Do, cautions women about Peter Panners. These men want women to do for them. They have not learnt the true art of being masculine and are lazy in their dating and partner roles. Discerning women will not usually hang around a Peter Panner for long, unless she is not certain about her own role and who she wants to be with.
Consistently assess your own behaviour for anything you think requires changing. Honest reflection can be difficult and sometimes painful but worth it in the end.
Consider any bad habits that might stop her from falling in love with you. Reflect on the things you say, are they positive or more negative? Change anything that might stop you from getting the results you want.
Getting her to fall in love with you won’t be as hard as you think
You’ll just need to follow the rules and be honest in your assessment of how you present yourself.
We put the right preparation into all things in life we want to achieve. The more thought and effort you put in, the more likely you are to get exactly what you want.