If you’ve gone through a painful divorce and want to know how long it will take to recover, read here…
Are you struggling in the aftermath of a painful divorce? Are you finding the overwhelming feelings hard to manage and you’re wishing the time away in the hope that you’ll eventually feel better?
You are now no stranger to grief and perhaps even a range of other negative impacts including:
- Sadness and depression
- Uncertainty about the future
- A sense of hopelessness
- Fear and dread
- Change in appetite
- Lack of motivation and enthusiasm
You’re are exhausted from the pain and emotional heaviness.
You need to know how long it will take to recover from your divorce.
Every divorce is unique and each person experiences divorce differently. Some work together and support each other so the divorce has minimal impact on each of the individuals. Sadly, in other instances, the individuals treat one another as the enemy, making the divorce a devastating experience.
People also traverse through the stages of grief and loss differently. Some are able to accept what is, and navigate through the process, albeit with sadness, to reach an emotionally satisfactory place at the end. Other people find managing the grief an impossible task.
You may take months or even a year to recover from your divorce. However, many people take years to fully recover and some people never do, living out life with bitterness and hopelessness.
What you do will determine how long it takes for you to recover from your divorce.
Just like a physical illness, if you do nothing to help recovery, then the recovery is likely to be slower, with inconsistent progress and perhaps a poorer end result. The longer you sit in the pain, the more your life will be altered, even in small ways. Eating habits change, social contact and satisfaction reduces, and enthusiasm for work and other things in life diminishes etc. When your divorce process comes to an end, many of these will be difficult to repair back to base level, further prolonging the impact your divorce has on your life.
Getting outside professional help is likely to make a difference in the time it takes you to recover from your divorce.
A university trained therapist can help you:
- With strategies to reduce the impact
- To feel better about yourself and be able to get through the difficult times
- To learn tools to manage difficult thoughts and emotions
- To have faith in a positive future
- Even just to listen if that’s all you need
It doesn’t feel like it now but you have more control than you think in terms of how long it will take you to recover from your divorce. You can choose what the future will look like, and how quickly or slowly you work through each step of the way. The most important thing is that you won’t be alone.