Issues with getting a great erection
Most men are likely to experience at some point in their lives a flaccid erection or soft penis- meaning an inability to get or maintain a hard-enough erection during sex.
Sometimes the penis may get erect to start with but may not be hard enough for penetration with a partner. If you’ve experienced this you’re not alone. Many men have encountered times when a softer penis has stopped them from having satisfying sexual experiences. Erection issues can be a result of many factors.
Health conditions may be behind ongoing erection dysfunction
Health conditions that impact on the body’s circulation may lead to a softer penis. Conditions such as high blood pressure, high cholesterol, hormonal imbalances are all linked to erection issues. Testosterone plays a crucial role in erectile functioning and decreased endocrine levels could also trigger the condition. Lifestyle choices have been known to be a contributing factor for some individuals. Alcohol and other substance abuse have a negative effect on erection functioning. It should also be noted that medicines prescribed for the treatment and control of depression, anxiety or high blood pressure may have adverse side effects on erections. Antihistamines and anabolic steroids are linked to softer erections in even young, healthy men. If you’ve experienced difficulty getting or keeping an erection, more than on the odd occasion, consultation with a medical professional will help uncover any physical underlying causes. If no medical reason presents then it might be time to consider it is psychological.
Psychological factors cause erection dysfunction
In the absent of medical drivers, you may have to consider that your erection issue may stem from psychological causes. Factors such as unresolved conflicts, workplace problems, relationship dysfunction, financial strain, depression, anxiety and trepidation about sexual performance or fear of failure are all linked to poor erection functioning. Consulting a sex therapist may provide some answers. Sex therapy offers a safe and non-judgemental atmosphere where you can explore possible causes of the issue.
A sex therapist will help you:
Talking to a therapist is no longer an embarrassing undertaking. Remember that professionals who enter therapeutic fields are genuinely interested in helping others overcome their psychological issues.
- Establish when the issue first presented. Is it lifelong or has it been acquired at some point during adulthood?
- Define how often it occurs and in what circumstances. With a particular partner or generalised with all partners?
- Uncover what areas in your life are working well and without impact, and what areas may be of concern.
- If beneficial,involve your partner in the process to increase cohesion, empathy and understanding
- Define couple or individual sexual goals (what would you like to see happen in the future)
- Formulate a therapeutic plan
- Explore what exercises you’re happy to try on the journey moving forward
- Track what’s working and what needs to be changed
- Stay connected until you see the results you’re aiming for