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If you’re asking yourself how you can get happy and stay happy, here are 4 really easy steps to follow.
- Are you feeling not as happy as what you think you should or could be?
- Not sure why happiness seems to sometimes come, but often then goes again?
- Do you wonder why other people don’t seem to struggle as much as you do, with being happy a lot of the time.
Your level of happiness may be a result of many factors including: psychology, genetic influences, overall health, past and current life experiences, and the like.
It’s normal for happiness to periodically change, ebbing and flowing with what’s happening in your life at any given period of time, including new challenges that come into play.
You can’t expect to be outrageously happy all of the time, but you can expect to mostly maintain a regular level happiness and contentment, given normal circumstances.
Your level of happiness may be a result of what you are paying attention to, or not paying attention to, in your life.
Here’s are 4 easy steps to get you started on a better road to happiness. Once you’re there, monitor things to increase your chances of staying happy.
- On an A4 sheet of paper, rule up 12 squares (I’ve drawn mine 4 boxes across and 3 down). Then in each box write the following categories:
– Your main relationship
– Other family involvement
– Social connection
– Community engagement
– Intellectual growth
– Emotional wellbeing
– Re-charging down time
– This one is blank for you to add any extra category you want
- You’ve now written your Life Matrix. These are all the areas of your life that should be contented and exist in harmony. When they are full and functioning well, they should bring your life satisfaction and happiness. Go back now and rate each one according to how satisfied you are that you are feeling happy and fulfilled in this area.
- Turn your attention to any area that rates poorly.
- Make a commitment to act and make changes to the poorly rated categories. If any one category rates low but is a work in progress, except this. You can still be content with the knowledge that it has your attention and that you are focusing on improving it.
A note on the Matrix: not all of these categories might be for you. Eliminate any that aren’t important to you and add ones that aren’t listed here but that you would consider important in your life.
Happiness often comes from taking personal responsibility that you are attempting to address all in your life that is not quite right. It’s when you turn your attention away, when you know that things are not right but you choose to ignore them, that powerlessness sets in. When you feel powerless, you feel hopeless. Neither of these are friends with happiness.
If you’ve tried everything you can and still can’t get happy and stay happy…
Getting outside professional help will likely be the answer. An external professional therapist will be able to see things clearly without bias. Your therapist will be able to help you see what’s missing from the puzzle and what doesn’t quite stack up. Together, you’ll then be able to overcome the obstacles and achieve the level of happiness you deserve.